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I posted after Peaches’ death just how shocked I was, how awful I felt for those babies, her poor husband, her poor family. 
I, like many others, did not know Peaches, just followed her on Instagram, awaited her posts, enjoyed her videos of her gorgeous children. 
Even in the last few months she seemed so together. Yes there were some pictures where she looked far less groomed than others, but so what, she was a mummy to two babies, wouldn’t we all look tired? 
This picture, taken in January, shows a healthy looking Peaches. A happy one. 
But the inquest was today, and according to that Peaches went back to taking heroin in February. She had been on prescription methadone for 2 years. Her babies were less than 2. Does that mean she took methadone while pregnant with them? Or worse? 
I loved Peaches, I really did, I still miss seeing pictures of her babies, and of her, but I can’t quite get my head around how she ‘attachment parented’ while taking methadone as a substitute to heroin. 
Was this why she was so adamant about breastfeeding? Because breastfeeding after taking methadone throughout a whole pregnancy would have meant her babies would have been slowly weaned off it, rather than abruptly being taken off it when born, which would have happened had she put them straight onto formula. 

I felt she was a great mother, I loved the way she stood up to Katie Hopkins; and had this not happened, I’d have been amazed at how she managed to continue to be the great mother she was while battling a drug addiction: AND WINNING! She was winning, she was doing so well. Yet she relapsed. I truly believe addiction is an illness, I really do. I believe she must have been at such a low point in her life to decide to take heroin while caring for one of her children.
The inquest says she died from a heroin overdose. It says her husband found her then ‘located’ the child. It says she had died after 8 pm on the Sunday. Yet she wasn’t found until 1.30. Where was her baby all that time? What sort of state must he have been in? He must have been hungry, needed a nappy change, anything. 
Maybe he had been in the room with her, we will never know. Who knows what state he was in. The thought makes me feel sick. Why would such an excellent mother do that? 
Peaches was a product of her upbringing, history repeating itself. Yet she showed such promise as a mother. She adored those boys, it was clear to see. 
I hope in 20 years time I’m not once again hearing the same story about one of those beautiful boys. I hope history does not continue to repeat itself. 
RIP beautiful lady. I hope you are finally at peace.

I posted after Peaches’ death just how shocked I was, how awful I felt for those babies, her poor husband, her poor family.
I, like many others, did not know Peaches, just followed her on Instagram, awaited her posts, enjoyed her videos of her gorgeous children.
Even in the last few months she seemed so together. Yes there were some pictures where she looked far less groomed than others, but so what, she was a mummy to two babies, wouldn’t we all look tired?
This picture, taken in January, shows a healthy looking Peaches. A happy one.
But the inquest was today, and according to that Peaches went back to taking heroin in February. She had been on prescription methadone for 2 years. Her babies were less than 2. Does that mean she took methadone while pregnant with them? Or worse?
I loved Peaches, I really did, I still miss seeing pictures of her babies, and of her, but I can’t quite get my head around how she ‘attachment parented’ while taking methadone as a substitute to heroin.
Was this why she was so adamant about breastfeeding? Because breastfeeding after taking methadone throughout a whole pregnancy would have meant her babies would have been slowly weaned off it, rather than abruptly being taken off it when born, which would have happened had she put them straight onto formula.

I felt she was a great mother, I loved the way she stood up to Katie Hopkins; and had this not happened, I’d have been amazed at how she managed to continue to be the great mother she was while battling a drug addiction: AND WINNING! She was winning, she was doing so well. Yet she relapsed. I truly believe addiction is an illness, I really do. I believe she must have been at such a low point in her life to decide to take heroin while caring for one of her children.
The inquest says she died from a heroin overdose. It says her husband found her then ‘located’ the child. It says she had died after 8 pm on the Sunday. Yet she wasn’t found until 1.30. Where was her baby all that time? What sort of state must he have been in? He must have been hungry, needed a nappy change, anything.
Maybe he had been in the room with her, we will never know. Who knows what state he was in. The thought makes me feel sick. Why would such an excellent mother do that?
Peaches was a product of her upbringing, history repeating itself. Yet she showed such promise as a mother. She adored those boys, it was clear to see.
I hope in 20 years time I’m not once again hearing the same story about one of those beautiful boys. I hope history does not continue to repeat itself.
RIP beautiful lady. I hope you are finally at peace.

  3:16 pm, by detectivemummy, [ 1 note ]


detectivemummy:

Never been so shocked for hear about a celebrity’s death. 
This poor girl, her poor children. She’s younger than I am, she seemed to be such a together person. I don’t know her, merely followed her on Instagram but she had so many followers who looked up to her and her parenting. 
Those two boys will last night have gone to bed without their mummy. And woke up this morning without her smile. 
It doesn’t matter what happened, what the speculation is. A young mother has died, leaving a husband, 2 beautiful children, her dad and her sisters. 
She was all I thought about last night. Each time I woke up to feed my own chunk I thought of her. I thought of her babies not having that anymore. 
Of her co sleeping babies who will be getting into that big bed with their daddy, and wondering where mummy is. 
My heart breaks for them, no one deserves to go through that. 
I believe her to be an extraordinary soul, she came through so much. She adored her boys and that shone through in every single post she posted on Instagram. 
So much is being made of her last post on twitter. A picture of her and her mum when she was a child. 
But this wasn’t her last post on Instagram. That was of her beautiful babies. I can’t help but think it must have been a dreadful accident. She seemed to be looking to the future. 

May Peaches Geldof-Cohen rest in peace, may her family be given time and space to grieve, in a way that she has openly said she wasn’t able to for her own mummy. 
Heartbreaking, truly.

God I sincerely hope the reports in today’s papers are not correct. Let’s hope it’s just hearsay. Please don’t let her have overdosed on heroin.

detectivemummy:

Never been so shocked for hear about a celebrity’s death.
This poor girl, her poor children. She’s younger than I am, she seemed to be such a together person. I don’t know her, merely followed her on Instagram but she had so many followers who looked up to her and her parenting.
Those two boys will last night have gone to bed without their mummy. And woke up this morning without her smile.
It doesn’t matter what happened, what the speculation is. A young mother has died, leaving a husband, 2 beautiful children, her dad and her sisters.
She was all I thought about last night. Each time I woke up to feed my own chunk I thought of her. I thought of her babies not having that anymore.
Of her co sleeping babies who will be getting into that big bed with their daddy, and wondering where mummy is.
My heart breaks for them, no one deserves to go through that.
I believe her to be an extraordinary soul, she came through so much. She adored her boys and that shone through in every single post she posted on Instagram.
So much is being made of her last post on twitter. A picture of her and her mum when she was a child.
But this wasn’t her last post on Instagram. That was of her beautiful babies. I can’t help but think it must have been a dreadful accident. She seemed to be looking to the future.

May Peaches Geldof-Cohen rest in peace, may her family be given time and space to grieve, in a way that she has openly said she wasn’t able to for her own mummy.
Heartbreaking, truly.

God I sincerely hope the reports in today’s papers are not correct. Let’s hope it’s just hearsay. Please don’t let her have overdosed on heroin.

  2:36 am, reblogged  by detectivemummy, [ 72 notes ]


rocketpowers:

there are teenagers who have unprotected sex but have a case for their iphone

just let that sink in

(Source: sluttyteenwolf)

  5:19 pm, reblogged  by detectivemummy, [ 503,046 notes ]


Trying to stop feeding chunk. Already stopped feeding him in the day last month. Didn’t feed him at night as I usually would but got him to feed this morning to ease the pain a little.
Now it’s got me, I’ve had a warm shower, massaged and tried to hand express. Any other tips?

  9:37 am, by detectivemummy


Make the beds after we get up, move the dirty nappies, tidy the kitchen after YOUR breakfast, tidy the kitchen after our breakfast, fill up the dishwasher, move the high chair, clear the floor of dropped food, wipe up spillages, get either of us dressed, put away food from lunch, tidy away lunch mess, put away walker/jumperoo/toys, open the blinds and curtains, feed the cat, empty the litter tray, do the food shop, make dinner, sort out out finances, clean up chunk after meals… Etc etc etc

Today I’m not going to do any of those things because apparently I don’t do them any day anyway!
Let’s see what the house looks like by 7pm!

  4:57 am, by detectivemummy, [ 6 notes ]


mother-of-two-soon:

thegirl0nfire:

This is cute. Personally I’d change some of the points myself but I like this.

LPP


Love this!

mother-of-two-soon:

thegirl0nfire:

This is cute. Personally I’d change some of the points myself but I like this.

LPP

Love this!

(Source: goodbyecar0line)

  3:59 pm, reblogged  by detectivemummy, [ 1,035 notes ]


rainbowsandunicornscrafts:

DIY 6 Sensory Discovery Bottles Tutorial from Inner Child Learning here.
Water and Beads
Water and Dish Soap
Water and Oil
Water, Clear Glue and Glitter
Water and Buttons
Water and Foam Shapes

rainbowsandunicornscrafts:

DIY 6 Sensory Discovery Bottles Tutorial from Inner Child Learning here.

  • Water and Beads
  • Water and Dish Soap
  • Water and Oil
  • Water, Clear Glue and Glitter
  • Water and Buttons
  • Water and Foam Shapes
  9:19 am, reblogged  by detectivemummy, [ 565 notes ]


Amazed at how annoyingly loud chunk’s walker is!
The batteries won’t be being replaced in that one!

  9:16 am, by detectivemummy


chelleandbabyseahorse:

Reblog this so I can follow you if you 

  • Are a parent
  • Are pregnant
  • Aren’t an asshat

 

  3:41 am, reblogged  by detectivemummy, [ 181 notes ]


Not for myself… You must understand. I’m not so self absorbed I’m thinking of my own loss, of someone I didn’t even know.
Has anyone else tried Peaches Geldof-Cohen’s Instagram tonight? It’s not there. ‘User not found’
I say it’s a loss all over again because for the people who she meant the world to, her friends and family, the closure of that account will mean so much.
Of course it’ll mean they won’t have to read the ridiculous comments some people are posting, speculating about how she may have passed or whether or not they care that her life has been taken.
But it’ll also mean the place they could go to to hear her voice, see her own comments, is gone.
A friend of mine was killed by her ex partner. Totally different situation to that of Peaches. But for a short time her Facebook page disappeared.
I had visited that page at the very least 5 times a day in those 2 weeks before the page disappeared. I constantly scrolled right back to her last statuses, her last photographs of her and her baby, I looked and looked at everything she’d done in her last weeks. To remind myself of what she had been like.
When I searched her name 2 weeks after her death to find no page, I was devastated. It was like I was experiencing the loss all over again.
Where would I go to look at the photographs, read her comments, see her face?
I used to lie in bed just scrolling through her page.
I would imagine that’s what many of Peaches family and friends did last night when they couldn’t sleep through the pain. They could have searched her last posts, reminded themselves of the funny comments she used to make. Watched the videos of her doting on her gorgeous boys.
And tonight when they return to that, they won’t be able to.

My friend’s page came back. They ‘memorialise’ it on Facebook- or something to that effect- if you so wish. There were a number of reasons why the family wanted this for my friend.
I still go on it at least twice a week.

maybe that’ll happen with Peaches’ page.
I have no idea if it can.

I just hope her friends and family have those images, video clips and memories to get them through these very dark early days.
Rest in peace Peaches

  6:21 pm, by detectivemummy, [ 1 note ]